The Jewish Chronicle

‘This plugs into my Jewish values. This is my mitzvah’

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therapists and psychologi­sts.

“I was asked to be an associate and it’s just grown from there,” he says.

“It’s a great organisati­on, especially among people with problems in sport. I’ll see elite sport stars, as Cognacity have contracts with players unions in a variety of sports.

The problems that sports stars struggle with include “mood disorders, mostly depression, and the biggest concern is failure to succeed.

“Sports people tend to have a dual personalit­y — a sportspers­on, one which is overdevelo­ped and a second one, which is underdevel­oped.

“If you think how leaders of indus- try often measure themselves heavily on how they do in their work, in sports it is invariably if I haven’t done well then it means I’m a terrible person.”

The series came about when Gary was looking for a way of combining the two elements of his working life. Stuck for a first candidate for a pilot show, it was Cognacity who came up with Bath rugby star Duncan Bell.

The former prop spoke movingly about the battle against depression which ended his rugby career; and the family issues that continue to haunt him.

“It was a jaw-dropping 50 minutes,” says Gary. “It was just OMG. Talksport got very excited about it.” Sports people can struggle with fear of failure I put it to Gary that some of the shows are so raw with emotion that some listeners may feel they verge on being exploitati­ve of vulnerable people.

He disagrees profoundly. “Anyone we invited onto the show, we made them listen to the pilot show with Duncan,” he says.

“Then, if they agreed to go ahead, if they felt uneasy or uncomforta­ble about anything they could either say so, or they had the opportunit­y to redact anything they said.”

He is also keen to stress what he sees as the way in which Judaism has influenced his work. “The reason I’m doing it,” he

says, “is that if we save one person, if one person puts down the bottle or pills, if one person steps back from taking their own life — this plugs into my Jewish values. That’s my mitzvah.”

He grew up in the Orthodox Jewish community in Leeds.

But rather than fond memories, he admits his early verdict on Jewish life in the city was far from positive.

“A lot of the things the community stood for did not make sense to me.

“The idea of having an ethical base to the community was kind of not there — and what took its place was an adherence to rules without understand­ing what the rules were.

“It drove me away from the faith, I found the community incredibly materialis­tic, incredibly narcissist­ic.”

Moving to Oxford in 1990, to be near his in-laws when he and his former wife had young children, had a dramatic influence on Bloom’s approach to his faith.

“I didn’t understand religion until I came to Oxford,” he explains. The pluralist nature of the Oxford community was part of the appeal.

“The faith came to me from the community here, it took me more towards Liberal Judaism.

“I see myself as a Liberal Jew — but probably more devout.

“It’s about trying to pick up for some the points of being Jewish — things like tikkun olam, tzedakah, about kindness and about generosity.

“It’s an extraordin­ary community – an adherence to the core values of Judaism.

“To me it’s about being a light upon nations and having a certain morality as a Jew.”

Bloom has a partner, Sue, but lives on his own. He has a student daughter, and a son who also works in the media, in sport and has just got engaged to “a nice Jewish girl, I’m a very proud dad.”

Bloom uses his book-lined living room to host counsellin­g sessions, as well as holding weekly surgeries in Harley Street.

Alongside his sessions with sports stars he also helps teenagers who are I’m a Liberal Jew, but probably more devout struggling at school.

“I work with teenagers who are showing behavioura­l and academic problems — mainly boys aged 14 to 16.

“I go to a school and see kids who really are struggling and I feel I can make a difference.

He often uses a diagram during sessions, which seeks to show how antisemiti­c ideas come to flourish in society.

“I use it all the time with my clients,” he reveals. “It is about taking responsibi­lity and trying to clean up the mess instead of blaming somebody else.”

It is clear that his three years of training to become a psychother­apist have left Gary in a far better place in his life as well as giving his Judaism even greater meaning.

“The hardest part for me was that as a broadcast journalist we are forced to make instant decisions like, ‘Was that offside, or was that a foul?

“As a therapist it has been about teaching myself to say no, I’ve no idea what is going on here.

“But with psychother­apy it could take eight or nine sessions, maybe even up to an entire year, but finally when that breakthrou­gh does come, it’s amazing. That has been the huge change for me.”

On the Sporting Couch starts on TalkSport on June 10 at 9pm

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