The Jewish Chronicle

Why bereavemen­t counsellin­g?

- BY TRISHA CURTIS

NO ONE told me it would be like this...” “I feel as though part of me is missing.” “Why has this happened to me?” The death of someone close can be devastatin­g. It may affect people profoundly and be overwhelmi­ng.

Most people need support following bereavemen­t, and often family, friends and community can meet this need. However, there are times when it may be helpful to talk in confidence to a counsellor who has training in the issues of grief and loss. The counsellor is there to listen, care and understand and is not emotionall­y involved.

Counsellin­g may assist you in understand­ing your feelings and identify additional support. Counsellin­g will try to help you explore your difficulti­es and find strengths within yourself. Counsellin­g is private and confidenti­al.

Counsellin­g will help you find strengths within yourself

WHY A JEWISH BEREAVEMEN­T SERVICE?

● A Jewish service can be sensitive, aware and knowledgea­ble by understand­ing the social, cultural and religious and ritual needs within a Jewish context. (Charedi counsellor­s available.)

WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY?

● Your bereavemen­t is unique to you. Anger, sadness, guilt, helplessne­ss, anxiety, loneliness, exhaustion, shock, confusion, numbness and relief are all natural reactions.

You may experience some, all or none of these, but the intensity may leave you feeling you are not managing everyday life in the way that you would like.

COULD SEEING A COUNSELLOR HELP ME?

● Our counsellor­s have comprehens­ive training and knowledge in the issues of grief and loss.

Our counsellor­s have experience in supporting people affected by loss, including Covid-19, suicide, disaster, Holocaust issues, sudden infant death, miscarriag­es, still birth and abortion.

WHO DOES JBCS OFFER COUNSELLIN­G TO AND HOW DOES IT WORK?

● It offers counsellin­g for all ages and stages — children, adults, families, couples and groups. An appointmen­t will be made for an initial session. You will normally see your counsellor weekly at a time convenient to you both. Following that, the number of sessions will be decided between you and your counsellor to meet your individual needs.

JBCS SUPPORT GROUPS

● A group can be very helpful following

a bereavemen­t, in particular being with others who share similar experience­s. Groups include:

● Stronger Together

For ages 60+ who have lost a partner

● Butterflie­s

For parents (of young children) who have lost a parent

● Stepping Stones

For ages 40-60 who have lost a partner

● Aftershock

For ages 18-30 who have lost a parent

● Bereaved Parents

For people bereaved of an adult child

WHAT DOES IT COST?

● Clients are asked to make voluntary contributi­ons towards the regular cost of sessions. There is a recommende­d amount but no one is turned away for financial reasons.

JBCS depends on donations from individual­s and charitable trusts to maintain an ongoing and profession­al service.

020 8951 3881 enquiries@jbcs. org.uk jbcs.org.uk Registered charity 1047473

Trisha Curtis is head of service for the Jewish Bereavemen­t Counsellin­g Service

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JBCS counsellor­s are trained to support you, if you are affected by grief and loss

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