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- BY DEBORAH NATHAN Deborah Nathan is director of World Emunah / emunah.org.uk Registered charity 215398

ON OCTOBER 7, 2023, 14-year-old Yoni was woken very early when the sirens started wailing. Yoni lives in Neve Landy, a residentia­l home in Even Shmuel, only 20km from the Gaza border and on that day the barrage of rockets from Gaza meant long hours spent in the safe room.

Yoni lives in residentia­l care, since he has suffered physical and emotional violence at home alongside significan­t psychologi­cal trauma. After a short stay in psychiatri­c hospital, welfare services referred Yoni to Emunah Neve Landy, a warm and caring specialist home for boys. The home, one of Emunah’s five children’s homes, was establishe­d 20 years ago with support from British Emunah, and it provides life-transformi­ng therapeuti­c support to children who are described as “post-traumatic” and require the highest level of care.

On that dark day, Yoni’s counsellor tried to distract him and to keep him calm, even though the counsellor was himself increasing­ly worried.

As the staff began to understand the scale of the attack, their priority became twofold: guarding their minds and their bodies: making the children feel safe during a time of terror and keeping them physically secure from any potential terrorist incursions.

Secondary trauma is damaging for any child — and much more so for children like Yoni. Once the campus was secured, it was important to allow the children to express their fears.

Early on in the war the children had to cope with learning of the death of one of their counsellor­s who, together with his father, had been killed when terrorists entered their home in Ofakim. Staff, who were upset themselves, had to share this carefully with the boys, knowing it was important to be truthful, but also aware how frightened and sad they might feel. These children have experience­d so much pain already in their young lives, Emunah’s expert staff have to be the ones to comfort them. Staff give them emotional and psychologi­cal tools to begin to process the tragic events of the war in a way they can cope with.

Many of the staff members at the home were called up immediatel­y to reserve duty. As this is a home for boys, there are many male staff members who act as role models for them, but their absence left an understand­able gap. Yoni and his peer group suffered from staff absences. Many have experience­d abandonmen­t by adults in their lives and reacted with violent outbursts or regression­s in behaviour. We were concerned this enforced absence would act as a regression.

Fortunatel­y, Emunah was able to recruit young women who had previously worked as National Service volunteers at the home, and as they knew the boys and their routines, they were able to provide a certain familiarit­y which was desperatel­y needed.

Additional­ly, when our wonderful counsellor­s were given leave from the army, sometimes only for 24 hours, they went to extreme efforts to visit the children, giving them comfort and reassuranc­e that they had not been abandoned.

Their priority was twofold: guarding the boys’ minds and bodies

Emunah also had to provide educationa­l support to the boys. Some schools were closed for many weeks and even when they reopened the journey to school was full of danger, as rocket attacks were constant. Some children were too scared to attend and instead, staff had to facilitate their online education and keep social contact with friends. Social isolation impacts at-risk children greatly, because they do not have the secure family relationsh­ips to fall back on.

Yoni has now returned to school, and with additional psychologi­cal counsellin­g and therapeuti­c activities such as basketball and selfdefenc­e that Emunah is able to offer him, he and all at Neve Landy are gaining the social and emotional tools they will need to transform their lives, long after this war is finally over.

The war in Gaza poses real challenges for all Israelis, as the country grapples with fear, uncertaint­y and loss on a national scale. What Emunah does is care for the children who lack a secure family home environmen­t with loving, capable parents to support them. Can you help us do that?

Counsellor­s went to extreme efforts to visit

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Counsellor­s offer reassuranc­e and a sense of security

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