My wife wants to sleep with other men
I’ve been married to a beautiful woman for ten years and we have a loving relationship with lots in common. We are perfectly matched and our sex life is great. However, recently she asked me if she could occasionally have sex with other men who she finds attractive and mentioned a couple of our friends. She saw that I was terribly upset by her suggestion and backtracked, saying it was just a bit of flirting, nothing more. She also said that I would be free to do the same and it would not change how much she loves me. Is it unreasonable of me to reject the idea? It is rather more than just flirting. Most men and women would be pretty devastated if the person they love suggested having sex with someone else. Also what might start with a bit of fun could develop into something more serious and if either of you slept with other people, one of you might fall in love with someone else. It could also be difficult when you are making love to each other not to think about them having sex with someone else and wondering if you are as good a lover as they are. Tell your wife how much you love her and that, for you, making love is something special between the two of you and you would be devastated if she had sex with other men. I think you really need to talk or perhaps even have counselling with Relate (relate.org.uk) to work out why she feels she needs this, as it could cause big problems in your marriage.