Ma­rina Fogle: Why Ben and I are bring­ing up our chil­dren in a naked house

The Mail on Sunday - - Pyeongchang - By Jake Hur­furt

IT IS ques­tion that pro­vokes heated de­bate among most par­ents: how old is too old for your chil­dren to see you naked?

For child­birth ex­pert Ma­rina Fogle, who has an eight-year-old son and six-year-old daugh­ter, there seems no rea­son to stop wan­der­ing around in a state of un­dress.

Writ­ing in The Mail on Sun­day’s Life sec­tion to­day, the wife of TV ex­plorer Ben Fogle re­veals that she is ‘never prud­ish about my chil­dren see­ing me naked’ and that the young­sters are not fazed by the sight of their par­ents in the nude.

But while the cou­ple still en­joy shar­ing a bath with son Ludo and daugh­ter Iona, Ma­rina says she won­ders whether she will have to re­con­sider her ‘blasé at­ti­tude to nu­dity’ as the chil­dren grow phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally.

For now, though, she i s re­lieved t hat her ‘Cae­sarean-scarred and stretch- marked’ body gi ves her c hi l dren a ‘healthy view of what a nor­mal body looks like in a world of In­sta­gram fil­ters’.

Her frank ap­proach to moth­er­hood has led, she writes, to the fam­ily be­ing open about sex. ‘ If my years of par­ent­ing have taught me any­thing, i t’s that hon­esty, al­though not al­ways easy to em­brace, is your friend,’ she says.

‘Talk­ing about sex is cru­cial and hav­ing hon­est con­ver­sa­tions with your chil­dren will make them, cer­tainly in the long term, re­spect you and ad­mire your brav­ery.’

Re­count­ing her early at­tempts at tack­ling the is­sue, she ad­mits to ‘fob­bing off’ Ludo and Iona with sto­ries of storks and ‘spe­cial hugs’, be­liev­ing they were too in­no­cent to be ex­posed to the world of sex. Ma­rina also re­veals that she once joked with hus­band Ben that he would be the one to have the ‘birds and the bees’ talk to their son, as pun­ish­ment for com­ing home from a night of rev­elry with a tat­too. But af­ter the dev­as­tat­ing loss of her third child, who was still­born in 2014, Ma­rina saw how speak­ing can­didly to Ludo helped him over­come the tragedy – and she re­alised that hav­ing the ‘ sex talk’ would re­quire sim­i­lar open­ness. The chil­dren’s re­ac­tion to hear­ing the truth about how child is con­ceived con­firmed her de­ci­sion, says Ma­rina. ‘ My chil­dren ac­cepted my ex­pla­na­tion in t he s ame way that they ac­cept why we have to stop at red traf­fic lights.’ The ex­pe­ri­ence gave her a price­less les­son in fam­ily life. ‘The more I’ve learnt about the role of a par­ent, the more I’ve re­alised that be­ing any­thing other than hon­est is a waste of time,’ she writes.

‘HON­ESTY IS YOUR FRIEND’: Ma­rina with son Ludo and daugh­ter Iona

‘HEALTHY VIEW’: The Fogle fam­ily

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