I’m dreading Christmas
I’m very anxious about Christmas because last year, much to my embarrassment, I was showered with expensive presents by both my daughter and son-in-law. (Incidentally, my grandson had a pillowcase full of presents some of which were worth over £20 each!) I did find the material consumption nauseating. I found it hard thanking them and gave a couple of my presents to Oxfam. How can I stop this happening again this year?
M Newman, Chelmsford Honesty is often the best option. Say you feel embarrassed since, after last year, you realise you can’t match them as far as presents go and what about having a policy that you don’t give anything over £25 to each other this year? Having said that, they’ve obviously got the money; and do remember how much pleasure they must get from thinking they’re giving you pleasure. They may have already bought you presents anyway. Might it not just be best to choke back your horror and next year ask for something specific that doesn’t cost too much and that you really want, so you don’t feel tempted to palm it off at a charity shop.