Finding your feet in a new area
The good news is, you’re not alone, and with a little ‘flexible thinking’ and support from some friendly faces, your new adventure can be something amazing. Dr Jennifer Wild, an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at Oxford University, says moving to a new area – even if it’s for positive reasons – can trigger a huge sense of loss and even bereavement, so focussing on new opportunities such as making new friends and exploring new surroundings can help you settle in. She explained: “For some, the sense of loss when moving to a new area can be overwhelming, and a move that was supposed to be for the better becomes the main focus of why you are unhappy or lonely. “The good news is, by recognising these feelings and getting into helpful thinking habits, you can transform your mood, build your confidence and start making a new life.” The Oddfellows has offered friendship and support to its members for more than two centuries, and its local branches organise regular social events for its members to enjoy, such as coffee mornings, talks and quizzes. Its friendship groups provide opportunities to get to know a new neighbourhood, through day trips, walks and lunches out to volunteering alongside other members. Oddfellows members also benefit from wellbeing support and advice with dedicated helplines for members and a travel club. Julie Rudge, 69, left her home of more than 30 years to live nearer to family in Southport. Keen to stay independent, she joined a number of local groups, including the Oddfellows. She said: “Through the Oddfellows I’ve made a wonderful group of friends. We do so many things together. It’s a bit like the pub, you meet interesting characters and friendly faces, but there are a few more “regulars” and it tends to be coffee mornings, lunches and coach trips rather than a drink at the bar. “There’s lots of choice, so you can always find something you’re into and someone who’s into it too,” Julie added. The Oddfellows is one of the UK’S largest friendly societies, with 42,250 members across its 113 branches. It’s a non-profit mutual (membership from £25 a year) run by members, for members, to improve the quality of people’s lives. To learn more about the Oddfellows and to receive a free information pack and local events diary, call 0800 028 1810 or email enquiries@oddfellows.co.uk. Further advice at www.oddfellows.co.uk/newstart *Terms and conditions apply to all member benefits and services. For details, visit www.oddfellows. co.uk/terms-conditions, or call 0800 028 1810.