The Scotsman

Prepare for ‘pandemic of grief ’ after missed Covid funerals, say experts

- By EMMA BOWDEN

The UK is facing a “grief pandemic” after almost half of bereaved adults were denied the ability to say goodbye to their loved ones during lockdown, a report has warned.

Some 59 per cent of mourners believe their grieving process has been negatively affected by the coronaviru­s restrictio­ns, while just over one quarter expressed guilt that their loved one did not have the funeral they deserved.

A survey of almost 10,000 adults, commission­ed by Coop Funeralcar­e, found that 47 per cent of bereaved adults in the UK were denied a final farewell in the weeks following 23 March, when the country went into lockdown.

This includes those who were unable to say goodbye to their loved one before their death, attend a funeral or view the deceased, according to the funeral provider.

Restrictio­ns on the number of attendees to restrict the spread of Covid-19 meant that many were unable to attend services held in memory of their loved ones, with churches and crematoriu­ms closed to the public.

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report – the first in a series looking at how the nation deals with grief – says the impact of funeral restrictio­ns are only just emerging, with experts warning the UK is on the “brink of a grief pandemic”.

The Yougov survey, carried out between 7 and 13 May, found that 2,008 out of 9,551 respondent­s had experience­d a bereavemen­t during lockdown, with 9 per cent stating the death was due to coronaviru­s.

When asked about the most important way to say goodbye, some 42 per cent of respondent­s said being present for their death, while 33 per cent chose attending a funeral or memorial service.

Some 37 per cent of mourners said they were unable to pay their respects by attending a funeral, while 45 per cent said the funeral went ahead, or is due to go ahead, with restricted attendees only.

Meanwhile, some 10 per cent of those who experience­d a bereavemen­t said attending a virtual funeral, live-streamed for those unable to be there, aided in their grieving process.

Just over three fifths (61 per cent) said nothing has helped them to grieve, which the report warns could present the nation with a prolonged period of mourning for months, or even years, to come.

Since June there has been a gradual easing of restrictio­ns, with funerals in places or worships now permitted to have up to 30 mourners.

David Collingwoo­d, director of funerals at Co-op Funeralcar­e said: “A funeral provides a sense of closure for bereaved families and is very often the start of the grieving process.

“Tragically, we don’t yet know what the long-term psychologi­cal effects will be for families denied the last opportunit­y to say goodbye, so it is vital that we do everything possible to allow families and individual­s to attend funerals, whilst always prioritisi­ng the health and safety of our communitie­s.”

Andy Langford, clinical director at Cruse Bereavemen­t Care, said: “The coronaviru­s pandemic has meant it is an incredibly distressin­g time to be grieving, whenever your bereavemen­t occurred.

“Many people have been grieving in isolation, unable to attend funerals, say goodbye, and be close to those they love.

“When you feel you have no control over how you can experience those last moments with someone, this can have a profound impact on the grieving process.”

Former Wales rugby internatio­nalist Gareth Thomas, who lost his uncle during the coronaviru­s outbreak, has said: “My uncle sadly died alone in hospital as we weren’t allowed to visit. It was heart-breaking to think of him on his own – and then all the formalitie­s that had to be dealt with, such as the funeral, sorting out his will, and organising probate. It was all extremely difficult, and made an already-tough situation a lot worse.”

He added: “Death is incredibly stressful – especially if it’s the first time someone has had to deal with a death.”

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