Help in life’s toughest times
The loss of a loved one is life’s most stressful event and can cause major emotional crisis.
After the death of someone you love, you may experience a wide range of emotions, even when the death is expected.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve – but there are healthy ways to cope with your loss. These feelings are normal and common reactions when someone close passes away.
You may not be prepared for the intensity and duration of your emotions or
how swiftly your moods may change.
You may even begin to doubt the stability of your mental health. But be
assured that these feelings are healthy and appropriate and will help you to come to terms with your loss.
When someone dies there there are many decisions and arrangements that have to be made, all of which can be difficult in a time of grief.
FINDING SUPPORT
The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. Sharing your loss makes the burden of grief easier to carry.
Wherever the support comes from – whether it be friends, family or from a professional help – accept it and do not grieve alone.
Connecting to others will help you heal.
Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you and accept the assistance that’s offered.
Often, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell them what you need - whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or help with funeral arrangements.
If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort it’s mourning rituals can provide. If you’re questioning your faith in the wake of the loss, talk to a clergy member or others in your religious community.
29 NOVEMBER
1530: Cardinal Wolsey arrested as a traitor and recalled to London. On the way he died at Leicester, and was buried there.
1580: Sir Francis Drake returned to England from circumnavigating the globe.
1681: The Royal College of Physicians, Edinburgh, was granted its charter by Charles II.
1745: Bonnie Prince Charlie’s army seized Manchester.
1877: Thomas Edison demonstrated his hand-cranked phonograph for the first time.
1897: The first motorcycle race took place in Surrey.
1900: Lord Kitchener assumed command of the British forces in South Africa, succeeding General Lord Roberts.
1907: Florence Nightingale, the “Lady with the Lamp”, was presented, at the age of 87, with the Order of Merit by King Edward VII for her services to the sick during the Crimean war.
1915: Women were first employed on the permanent staff at Scotland Yard.
1918: Serbia annexed Montenegro.
1922: Archaeologists announced that they had found fabulous treasures in the tomb of Tutankhamen in Egypt.
1929: American admiral and aviator Richard Byrd made first flight over the South Pole.
1944: Albania was liberated from Nazi control.
1945: Monarchy was abolished in Yugoslavia, which was proclaimed a communist republic.
1947: United Nations announced plan for partition of Palestine, with Jerusalem under United Nations control.
1949: Explosions at a uranium mine at Johanngeorgenstadt, East Germany killed 3,700 people.
1962: Great Britain and France agreed to jointly build Concorde.
1963: The Beatles released I Want To Hold Your Hand.
1965: Mary Whitehouse began her Clean Up TV campaign by setting up the National Viewers’ and Listeners’ Association to tackle “BBC bad taste and irresponsibility”.
1974: Parliament passed a bill making the IRA an illegal organisation.
1975: Graham Hill, 46, motor racing champion, died with five others while piloting a plane that crashed in fog over north London.
1989: India’s prime minister Rajiv Gandhi resigned.
1989: Romanian Olympic gymnast Nadia Comaneci fled to Hungary.
1995: The Conservative government announced an expanded role for the Scottish Grand Committee by switching some parliamentary proceedings from Westminster, including examination of the prime minister and Cabinet ministers.
2007: Wendy Alexander faced calls for her resignation as leader of the Scottish Labour Party after transport spokesman Charlie Gordon admitted that cash given to her leadership campaign from Jersey-based businessman Paul Green broke the law on overseas donations.
2013 A helicopter crashed through the roof of the crowded Clutha Bar in central Glasgow, killing ten people.
BIRTHDAYS
Simon Amstell, British comedy actor and writer, 42; Don Cheadle, American actor (Ocean’s 13, The Assassination of Richard Nixon), 57; Joel Coen, American film actor, producer and director, 67; Ross Drummond, Scottish golfer, 65; Diane Ladd, American actress, 86; Gena Lee Nolin, American actress (Baywatch), 50; David Rintoul, Aberdeen-born actor, 73; Kim Delaney, American actress, 59; Jonathan Knight, American singer (New Kids on the Block), 53; Cathy Moriarty, American actress (Raging Bull, Analyse That), 61; John Mayall OBE, singer-songwriter and musician, 88
ANNIVERSARIES
Births: 1895 Busby Berkeley, director; 1898 CS Lewis, author; 1929 Derek Jameson, journalist; 1932 Jacques Chirac, president of France 1995-2007.
Deaths: 1872 Mary Somerville, Jedburgh-born mathematician and author after whom the Oxford college was named; 1924 Giacomo Puccini, composer; 1974 James Braddock, US boxing champion; 1981 Natalie Wood, film star; 1986 Cary Grant, actor; 1987 Irene Handl, actress; 1991 Ralph Bellamy, actor; 2001 George Harrison, lead guitarist of The Beatles
The Outlaws, BBC1, 10.35pm Many people initially tuned in to this comedy drama for the novelty value of seeing Christopher Walken in a BBC series set in Bristol, but it’s the storyline, scripts and the entire cast that’s kept them watching. In this final episode, Christian’s nemesis closes in on him, as the truth about their shared history is revealed to the outlaws. Meanwhile, as Frank starts to bond with his daughter Margaret, John risks ruining his relationship with his own dad, and Rani’s parents remind her of the importance of honouring one’s obligations. Greg is caught between a rock and a hard place, and Gabby and Myrna join in a rescue mission, but ultimately the whole group is left facing a choice – should they die as individuals or join forces to survive?