Former lover stole my life as he posted vile revenge porn 4 years after we split
A shocking story that should be read by every woman navigating modern sexual mores...
A WOMAN whose ex-boyfriend posted photographs of her on pornography websites has warned others to beware of sending naked images of themselves – no matter how much they trust their partner.
Now 29, the woman believed she was keeping their long-distance relationship alive by agreeing to Andrew Dickson’s requests for risqué pictures while work called her away from their home.
But within a year he ended the romance and four years later, after she had found new love with someone else, he used the images to open accounts on several sex sites and posted them alongside vile sexual fantasies as he pretended to be her.
Describing his ex-girlfriend as a masochistic nymphomaniac, he carried out the online deception for more than two years, even having sexual conversations with men while pretending to be her.
It all came to an end when one of the men tried to make contact with her on Facebook and she contacted police.
Yesterday, the mother of one – whose anonymity is protected by law – told The Scottish Mail on Sunday: ‘I feel disgusted he could do something like this to me. He’s not the person I thought he was. I thought I was in a loving relationship for 19 months with someone I could trust, but he betrayed me.
‘He’d already broken my heart once by ending our relationship, then he did this and broke my heart all over again when I had no feelings left for him.
‘It’s not even revenge porn in the true sense because he was the one who finished with me, not the other way round. I’ve tried hard to make sense of it but I can’t.’
Dickson, 33, who admitted his guilt in a pre-trial hearing at Paisley Sheriff Court last month, is due to appear for sentencing on Thursday. His victim added: ‘I want him to get the harshest punishment because I don’t want him fooling anyone else. I want him made an example of so that people know it is not okay to do this.
‘He genuinely stole my life and, although I can’t do anything about it now, if I could stop it happening to others, I would tell them not to make the mistake I did. There’s no shame in sharing photographs as part of a loving relationship, but you have to make sure you really know someone, and if you can’t say you do, then don’t do it at all.’
The court heard Dickson had been carrying out his depraved online conversations and posting the nude images, together with up-to-date family images from his ex-girlfriend’s social media profiles, from his bedroom in his mother’s home in Newton Mearns near Glasgow.
The woman was horried to find profiles of her had been created on motherless.com and the porn media and social networking site xHamster. Dickson had written degrading comments in the biography sections of the bogus profiles.
Shocked and disgusted by what she uncovered, the woman contacted the police and an investigation was launched, finally tracking Dickson down through IP addresses linked to the profiles.
The content of the messages was so graphic that Sheriff David Pender told procurator fiscal depute Keri Marshall she did not have to read them out in court.
Yesterday, Dickson’s victim said: ‘I would like to ask him why he felt he had to do this to me. I’d known him for some years before we finally got together and he was always very charming. I wasn’t the most confident person but he made me feel loved. We had a flat together and were happy, but then my new job took me away for weeks at a time.
‘We spoke to each other daily and we thought sending photographs would be a bit of a laugh, a way of keeping our long-distance relationship alive. I wasn’t forced to do it. I loved him.
‘Now I feel disgusted and ashamed that he could do this. He’s turned out to be some kind of perverted weirdo.’
Dickson admitted a breach of the peace charge which stated he ‘did upload indecent photographs of your ex-partner onto numerous pornographic websites, write a profile description on said websites which disclosed her location, contained lewd and sexual remarks regarding her sexual preferences and invited users of said pornographic websites to contact her for their sexual gratification’.
He admitted pretending to be her on the websites between October 2015 and April 2017.
The court heard that when officers seized Dickson’s computers and phones, they also found images of girls, some as young as eight, being sexually abused.
The former holiday rep admitted a charge of downloading the child abuse images between January and February 2011.
His solicitor Matthew Berlow said his client suffered from depression and anxiety, adding: ‘He pretended to be [her]. He simply used the images.’
Dickson was placed on the sex offenders’ register and could be jailed for up to five years when he returns to court for sentencing.
‘the I want him to receive harshest possible punishment, to be made an example ‘He was always very charming’