Dearly-missed parents are happily reunited

Dear June

MY mother died in 2004. I think she died before it was her time and I should have intervened to stop the medical treatment.

I feel I let her down. My partner and I were not there when she passed as we had just left the room.

I tend her grave regularly and take flowers on special dates. I miss her terribly. I hope she knows how much I love her. I am going to visit the family in May and we will all be thinking of her as always.

Robert, Livingston.

June says:

Losing a mum is a loss like no other you will ever experience.

I was very drawn to your email and almost instantly felt aware of your mum.

She passed with a cancerous condition and although I am drawn to the lower part of the body with this, she passed with fluid on her lungs and had great difficulty breathing. Her breathing near to the end caused you distress.

I feel this was the second time she had the illness, as I sense she won part of a previous battle and was beginning to get better.

I am aware that the treatment administered took its toll on an already frail frame, but her strong character refused to give up. Five days prior to passing she deteriorated rapidly.

You are very like your mum — like two peas in a pod!

I am aware of two ladies with her who are standing close together (I feel they too passed with cancer).

There is also a gentleman standing to the side and I can hear the name John being called. He passed ver y quickly and unexpectedly with heart problems.

He didn’t get the opportunity to say goodbye. There was no family with him and the month of September must be relevant.

Your mum longed for him for years and is happy to again be reunited.

There is a collie dog with them that lost some of its hair ( lassie type) and she makes mention of a Bill here in life.

There is also talk of a younger male connected with you, and a family rift and separation that caused you emotional distress.

Things will settle down but won’t be sorted out in full with closure on this side of life, but will on the next.

You felt you let her down but her treatment and the continuation of it was her choice. She was very strong- willed and refused to give up.

She is still around you and shows me deep cerise pink roses received from you with love.

She shows me a picture of herself and pulls me to her graveside stating that it is duplicated, taken during an important celebration.

You are not a good son, you are a great son!

VERDICT

Mum had pancreatic cancer. So did her sister and mother. It returned after remission. My dad John died of a heart attack.

Our collie had hair shaved after an accident.

I put pink cerise roses on her grave recently. In fact, these are from Mother’s Day.

Her 80th birthday photo is on the gravestone and at home.

My stepson is estranged and we have not spoken for years.