Family looking after your pet

MY husband died 27 years ago and nearly all of my family has gone.

I’ve just lost my lovely little cat, which I had to have put to sleep.

She was my friend and I feel like I killed her.

Is any of my family looking after her as without her, I feel like my life has come to an end?

Name withheld, Cleveland.

YOUR little cat was, to you, a close family member and I can understand the pain of your loss.

Animal friends give us so much unconditional love and loyalty, but unfortunately the inevitability is that they don’t live as long as we do.

You did the very best for your little friend by making sure her suffering did not last.

She will undoubtedly be looked after by other family members and accepted by them as the family she was to you.

Your grief is very raw at present and I can assure you that you are by no means alone.

I can count nine people standing and three cats around me in support of you, and I am particularly drawn to a small black and white one.

Some people who have endured the pain caused by the loss of a family pet can feel them walk lightly across their bed at night.

This is in an effort to give some reassurance and comfort that they are still around.

Several years ago, I lost my wee black Pekinese and if I got up through the night I would step over him in the doorway where he used to lie.

Although your family are caring for her, rest assured your cat’s love and loyalties lie with you.

Dear June

I HAVE been struggling since I lost my son, Mark. I have pushed away everyone who cares about me, as I just want to be alone to cope with my grief in my own way.

Mark was my world and I looked after him before he died, but I was ill and couldn’t be there at the end. His dad and brother were with him. He was unconscious so would he know I wasn’t there? If so, does he understand why I couldn’t be with him? I love and miss him so much, it hurts every day.

Elaine, Glasgow. He knows and understands why you couldn’t be with him.

Mark draws me to your stomach area. Do you have ongoing problems there?

He can also see what’s been going on around you, with all the unfinished paperwork.

Without your love and care he would not have been able to survive as long as he did.

He was your world and you in the end were his. Physically, you may be worlds apart, but spiritually you are closer than you will ever know or understand, until your time comes to stand with him on the spirit side of life.

WHILE reading your letter, I not only felt the emotional pain of your grief, but was overwhelmed with paperwork piling up.

I am shown question marks written in the air, as if there is no closure and unfinished business.

I’m aware of an energetic, enthusiastic male energy, which I am sure is Mark’s.

He tells me it was too late to save him.

I sense a problem with his blood, like his filter system was blocked and toxins or poisons were in his body.

I am impressed to say he is once more in control of himself and has the feeling of being free.

You mentioned Mark’s dad and brother being with him when he passed, but he makes me aware of three people. Was anyone else there? He slept away peacefully. Mark was met by a tall, gentle man after he passed.

I want to place him above Mark as a grandfather figure. I smell strong alcohol from him.

September must be significant.

I see a black gravestone with gold writing on it that is not yet put in place.

Your loving son wants you to know he is safe and at peace.

He has returned once more to the active, loving, mischievous son you knew before his illness.