Husband slipped away during the time I was gone

Dear June

I LOST my husband in March.

I was not with him when he died as I made the decision to return home for a change of clothes and to feed our cat.

He was asleep and seemed settled when I left. Our daughter was sitting with him and I was only going to be gone an hour.

I received a call to return as he had taken a turn for the worse but he was already gone when I arrived. I am riddled with guilt and feel I have let everyone down.

Mhairi, via email.

June Says

I believe that whoever is meant to be present at a passing will be.

Over the years I’ve spoken to many who have lost loved ones and had similar experiences.

Some have sat vigilantly for days by a bedside and have stepped outside for less than a minute and, during that time, the person has passed over. To me, that’s not coincidental. Don’t feel guilty at not being present.

Your husband had your daughter by his side and was also surrounded by the energies of those from spirit waiting to collect him.

I am aware of three souls from spirit side coming forward together. I see a gentleman accompanied by two ladies, one on each arm.

I feel they are motherly figures as they’re protective of him and surround him with love. He’s smiling and looks content. I sense your husband to be a very proud, confirming man who was well respected.

I am shown a badge I would liken to air force wings and many from spirit are gathering round the group of three. Are there RAF connections? The voices of an all-male choir can also be heard. Was your husband a choir member?

I see paperwork strewn on the floor that you’re slowly but surely working through.

I get the impression he handled everything, but you have been managing things a lot better than he imagined!

He wants you all to know how proud he is to be able to watch his family draw close in support of one another.

In spirit, like you, he is supported and surrounded by those he loves.

He now knows one day you’ll all be standing together again.

Until that day comes he will walk by your side, unseen but felt by the heart.

VERDICT

My husband lost his mother at a very young age and after his father remarried he had a close relationship with his stepmother.

I would like to think he is now with them both.

He held a career in the RAF, as did his father for many years, and was a proud, respected man.

He loved the music of Harrow Apollo Male Choir and their music was played at his funeral.

He did handle all of the paperwork but I now feel I am very slowly getting there.

He was proud of us all and I am happy he can see how close we are and how much we all love and miss him.