Wife no longer feels any pain

Dear June

My wife passed away nearly nine years ago.

She was admitted into hospital and placed on life support.

The doctors informed us that she would never recover and it would be best to switch it off. We reluctantly agreed. Since then, it has always worried me if that was the right decision.

Has she always held it against us for doing so?

Alan, Derby

June Says

When a loved one is extremely we rely heavily on doctors and medical experts who have the most experience in regards to the care that may be required.

We place our total trust in them in the hope that they would do all that can be done.

That’s exactly what you and your family did.

In the middle of a crisis, when emotions are running high, we make our final decisions based on information given to us by those who we trust to care for those we love.

It is extremely normal to look back and assess the situation with a calm mind.

Your good lady knows exactly what happened on that day and fully understands that the decision you all made had her best interests at heart.

She does not resent the decision and knows that you did not have any other choice and that you were all heartbroken.

She is no longer in any pain or discomfort and will always remain close by the family she loves dearly.

ill,

Dear June

My husband Dennis passed away three years ago.

He had dementia and prostate cancer.

He had served 28 years in the RAF Marine Craft section.

We had been married 66 years and it was hard for me.

I did live in Alness, but moved a year ago to be near my daughter.