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Dear June

My wife died two months ago with dementia and heart problems.

Before she passed she deteriorated quickly. Please advise me if she is OK.

I miss her so much. She loved her garden and I spend many hours looking after it for her.

Keith, Hexham.

June Says

It is initially extremely difficult after the loss of a life partner.

It is also very normal to feel life is not worth living without her.

You are, at present, in the throes of grief and in time will start to adapt and adjust to life without her being physically here. She had been ill for some time and her body eventually gave up, but she has not left you and her spirit is with you each and every day.

Talk to her while you are tending to her garden and in time you will begin to feel better and sense her around you. She will hear you.

Look for subtle signs from her such as smells or electrical equipment becoming temperamental.

It has only been two months without her. This is the very early stages of the grieving process and just now your grief is very raw.

Take life one step at a time and allow yourself to gradually heal.

You will eventually be able to smile when you bring forward the many treasured memories you hold of her from within your mind and heart. Look back each month to see how far you have come through the initial stages of your grief. She loves you and will be with you every step of the way.

Dear June

My husband and I were married for almost 40 years and it’s been awful without him since his very unexpected passing. He hadn’t been well for a while and, despite numerous visits to various doctors, they kept telling him there was nothing wrong. Imagine the shock when I came down one morning to find him dead on the sofa. Everyone assured me the first 12 months would be the worst but I’m finding it harder.

Isabelle, email.

June Says

It can be devastating to find yourself standing alone after spending most of your life with someone.

During the first 12 months after a loss you go through the five stages of grief, trying to slowly accept, adapt and adjust to a life without them.

After the first year is over, a sharp realisation occurs and you realise they aren’t coming back.

That can hurt, but you then understand you are standing in life as one and not as part of a partnership. During this stage you’ll feel a faster emotional healing happen.