Dad had been so de­ter­mined to walk me down the aisle on my wed­ding day... I stitched a pic­ture of him into my dress

The Sunday Post (Inverness) - - NEWS -

The daugh­ter of Tom Tyre­man, who died af­ter his new liver gave him can­cer, has re­vealed how he did not live to ful­fil his dream of walk­ing her down the aisle. Her mum Judy took his place at Emma’s wed­ding in April, two months af­ter her dad died. Heart­break­ingly, she had stitched a pho­to­graph of her dad in­side her dress so he would be be­side her on her big day.

Emma said: “It was a joy to have mum by my side but noth­ing can make up for not shar­ing that mo­ment with dad. “He had been so very ill as we were plan­ning ev­ery­thing. But he was so de­ter­mined to be there on my wed­ding day, I’m con­vinced that kept him fight­ing his ill­ness. Even in hos­pi­tal it was fore­most on his mind.

“We all lived in hope that our dreams would come true and he would make it.

“Fam­ily was ev­ery­thing to dad. He was so proud when my brother Jonathan mar­ried last Septem­ber. The pho­to­graphs taken of mum and dad to­gether that day are very pre­cious be­cause they look so happy. “But by the time my own wed­ding came round, dad was clearly very un­well.”

Emma re­vealed how they had all been up­beat about the news that Tom would get a trans­plant. “As a fam­ily we had been de­lighted when we got the call that he was get­ting a trans­plant af­ter wait­ing just three weeks,” she said. “I think dad hoped it would give him a new lease of life and he’d be so much bet­ter by the time he was due to walk me down the aisle.”

But the dreamed of re­cov­ery never came and within a short cou­ple of weeks, Tom’s fran­tic fam­ily could see him go­ing even fur­ther down­hill.

To keep her dad’s spirit’s up, Emma took her wed­ding rings to him as lay fight­ing for his life in New­cas­tle’s Free­man Hos­pi­tal crit­i­cal care ward.

She said: “It’s so sad that by that time his eye­sight was be­gin­ning to go. He strug­gled to see them. But I was able to put them in his hands so he could feel them.”

De­spite the shat­ter­ing blow of los­ing her dad in Fe­bru­ary, Emma and the fam­ily knew Tom would have in­sisted on her wed­ding go­ing ahead.

She said: “It’s a huge com­fort to me that be­cause I’d bought my wed­ding dress be­fore dad went into hos­pi­tal, he at least got the chance to see me in it. “I’m so glad I didn’t keep it a se­cret and we had a spe­cial mo­ment when he saw me as a bride. I won’t ever for­get the look on his face when he saw me in my wed­ding dress. “I cher­ish that mem­ory. He was so proud.” De­ter­mined Tom would still be close to her heart on her wed­ding day, Emma and her mum took ma­te­rial from his favourite shirt and cut it into a heart. Along with a pho­to­graph of her dad and the flower she had wanted him to wear in his but­ton hole, Emma and Judy stitched the spe­cial tribute to Tom in­side the wed­ding dress. On her wed­ding bou­quet, she car­ried a much-loved pho­to­graph of father and daugh­ter taken when Emma was a tod­dler.

Emma said: “We knew as we walked to­gether, that dad was with us, our spe­cial tribute to him hid­den in­side my dress, close to my heart.”

But the loss of Tom, as a father and hus­band, from their lives is a wound which will never heal. Judy said: “Tom would have loved to be a grand­fa­ther. That was taken from him. It was taken from all of us. He was a great dad and he would have been a won­der­ful grand­fa­ther too.”

Tom with beloved wife Judy

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