Hard to move on after murder of our special girl

Dear June Our family has been devastated by a loss that we are trying to deal with in our own different ways.

Grief can either pull a family together or rip it apart and I feel the loss of my beautiful daughter and the way she died has been not only hard to cope with but also hard to accept.

My other daughter was very close to her sister and cannot seem to move on with her life. We are looking for closure and answers. We love her so much and need to know she is fine.

Jane, Inverness. June says

Losing a child, no matter how old, is one of the hardest types of grief.

When we have our children, never in our wildest dreams do we imagine we will lose them.

The normal pattern is for us to grow old and leave the legacy of our children behind to continue the circle of life by having their children, and so on.

I am aware of a lovely girl who while here on earth seemed to have lost her direction and confidence in life.

She was naturally sensitive and looked to her sister to give her the strength and confidence she lacked.

She shows me a picture of them together and they are making funny faces.

She draws close to you and her sister to try to alleviate the pain and to let you know she is close and safe.

She knows her sister has lots of her things and wears her clothes and she’s happy about that. All of her things are still around and have not been removed from the home.

She tells me a cross was put in her coffin, which she thanks you for, and also for the care and attention to her grave when you visit it, which she tells me is often.

I am aware of a sharp pain in the chest area with her and feel pushed backwards. She passed very quickly.

I am being shown a vision of a man with a knife and she tells me he took away her life.

She knew him and although intimidated by him, she agreed to meet to talk. He stabbed her in the chest. She needs you to know she is safe and well and tries to project a feeling of peace to you.

She wants you to know you didn’t let her down and she loves you so much.

She wants her sister to move on and live her dream, for both of them.

You both helped her more than you will ever know. VERDICT My daughter was murdered by a man she knew, who stabbed her straight through the heart.

He wanted a relationship but she did not.

There is a photo on her sister’s wall of them both making a funny face.

A cross was put in her coffin, and her grave is visited often and is well cared for.

Her sister has her things and wears her clothes.

They were very close and she can’t seem to move forward. I did feel I had let her down. She was sensitive in life and was being guided and helped by us both.