Mum was my best friend and I miss her so much

Dear June

IT’S been almost a year since my mum passed away unexpectedly.

She had been epileptic for as long as I can remember and we all knew what to do in the event she should take one of her turns. The day she died started off like any normal Saturday morning. We were chatting together one minute and the next, I found myself sitting by her on the floor.

She had hit her head as she fell and passed away in hospital later that day. I miss her.

Denise, Aberdeen.

June Says

As I read your letter I am immediately aware of being watched by a tall lady from spirit who is slowly drawing closer.

I feel a mother’s love and a sense of great compassion towards you as I endeavour to make my connection stronger.

The loss of a mum is unlike no other loss we will experience.

We all take our mums for granted at times as we think they will always be there to pick up the pieces and to give us love and support, irrespective of our mistakes or choices.

A loving mother is one of life’s greatest gifts and her worth isn’t truly appreciated until she is no longer physically around.

She is the glue that holds a family together and many people find it difficult to adjust without her at the helm.

I sense your mum was also your closest friend and you did many things together.

She knows how hard it is for you to keep going each day without her but she makes me aware of two young boys who need you. (Do you have two sons?) They are your world and I sense they were a huge part of hers, too.

You dad is also struggling to adapt to life without her and he relies upon you.

You seem to have taken your mum’s place as the family’s

problem fixer and she’s proud of the strength and support you have given them all.

She wants you to know she was aware of how protective you were of her before she passed. You never left her side and that brought great comfort.

I don’t feel she ever regained consciousness but she heard you tell her constantly that you loved her.

A mother’s love will always surround her family and she wants you all to know she is still at the helm and will do her best to steer you into calmer waters.

VERDICT

My mum was my closest friend and we were always together.

My husband works away and Mum would be there every day to help with our two young sons.

She was in my home when she had the seizure and I refused to leave her side from that moment.

She did not regain consciousness as she had a massive bleed to the brain.

I kept telling her we all loved her and I am so glad she heard me. We were with her when she died.

I have become the fixer, as I am proud to say I am very like her.