Brother finally has peace and acceptance

Dear June

My younger brother passed away in February and I feel so alone without him as we were very close.

There are so many unanswered questions surrounding his death that I am struggling to come to terms with. I desperately need to know he is OK.

Our family was not the closest but my brother and I stuck together our whole lives and I miss him so much.

I talk to him every day and tell him how much I love him. I hope and pray he can hear me from wherever he is.

Joan, email.

June Says

Losing the only close family member you felt an emotional connection with can be devastating and will take time to accept.

Those we had a strong bond with will remain close, even after physical death.

The bond and connection will be forever strong and can never be broken.

I am impressed to say your brother’s passing was sudden and unexpected.

As I become more aware I sense he was sensitive and struggled with the competitiveness of life.

I sense someone who was constantly judged and put under pressure by those around him for being different.

He was extremely volatile but could be very sociable with those close to him, but at times withdrew to be alone and rebalance his mood within his own comfort zone.

Your brother accepts full responsibility for his passing but I don’t feel it was suicide.

I feel a warmth moving through his body (drugs/ overdose?).

He comes forward with an older lady who seems very protective of him and is of strong character.

They had a close bond and I am impressed to say she was family connected.

She was one of the few people, like you, who understood his sensitive nature and would not place undue pressure on him to be someone he was not.

I get the strong sense of a mother figure and feel she was very close to you both? You are both surrounded by her unconditional love.

I feel she has been in spirit for some time and that her passing would have been a great loss to the family.

He can hear you when you talk to him and knows how much you miss him.

He is very much at peace and is accepted and loved for who he is.

VERDICT

My brother was gay but very confused, as throughout his life he had tried to be someone else and was judged by other family.

He was very sensitive and would sometimes take himself off to be on his own when things got tough.

He overdosed on morphine but we all felt it was accidental.

The lady with him was our grandmother, who was the only one in our family who did not worry about what other people thought.

She loved us dearly and the family fell apart after her death.

My prayers have been answered now and I know he is finally at peace.