‘They are a bit of a lucky dip and I don’t seem to have had much luck’
The rise and rise of online dating has prompted a new psychological phenomenon.
Dating app fatigue was officially recognised as a condition in 2016.
Jenny Rogers, 45, from Helensburgh, knows the feeling. Since joining Tinder in 2020 after separating from her
partner a year previously, she has been on more than 30 dates, none of which have turned into anything more serious.
“The thing with the apps is that it’s just a bit of a lucky dip, and I don’t seem to have had much luck,” said Rogers.
“When I first started using Tinder I was all over the chats, starting conversations and putting a lot of effort in, but then after a while you find people will just stop replying to you, and you’re like, well that was a lot of effort for nothing. But then I do the same to other people too.
“Then if you do get to the point where you’re ready to meet someone, often you get there and they’re really not what you were expecting.
“I sometimes wonder if I’m just expecting too much, but I think you do know when it’s right and when there’s a spark.
“Another thing that’s quite hard is the fact that I’m 45 and in that age bracket it’s quite a small pool of people similar to me.
“I have two young children, but I find that a lot of men who are in my age range either haven’t had kids yet, or their kids are a bit older and so they want to do things like jump in a campervan and move to France as they don’t have the responsibilities I have.
“It’s been six months since I’ve been on an online date and I think, to be honest, it’s just not for me. I’m going to try in-person speed dating next. As much as I’m happy and I don’t mind being single, it’s also nice to be able to spend your life with someone.”