MODERN MANNERS

Sophia Money-coutts y-coutts asks: how posh is your tree?

AIt’s a toughie. If she really wants to exert herself as the matriarch, don’t get in her way. Bring the cheese, thus avoiding a potentially ignitable culinary showdown with your wife/husband’s affection as the perceived prize. After lunch get stuck into the washing up… just don’t be putting it away in the wrong cupboards.

ACire Trudon makes my favourite; if its Nazareth candle is not Christmas I don’t know what is (£78, selfridges.com). Toast does a natural soy candle le