THE NOT-GOODENOUGH MUM A BEGINNER’S GUIDE

hWhen you find yourself questioning whether you are enough, recognise where “enough” has been replaced by “perfect”

hLook at what you’re trying to achieve and ask yourself, what would you say to a friend in this moment? Most likely, you’d tell her to take a break

hDrop your standards, cut corners, embrace the chaos. Life, especially with kids, will never be perfect so stop reaching for that

hFeel the guilt and do it anyway. Saying “no” and letting balls drop can feel difficult, especially if you’re a people-pleaser

hPrioritise and pre-empt your need for space and recharging – make space for it in your diary, however brief

hParenting lasts a lifetime so never think it’s too late to overhaul your mindset. Remember: you are deserving of a life well lived