MEN NEED TO TALK BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE
Simon opens up on incontinence to help others
“IT IS something we joke about, like ‘oh look at him going to the toilet again’, but it is more than a joke, if you or your friend is like that, it is an important sign you need to see a GP.”
These are the words of 71-year-old Simon Moffett who started experiencing incontinence issues five years ago.
He said: “To give you an idea of how bad it was, my wife asked me if I wanted to go and watch a film in the cinema, and I had to say no, because I could not go and sit in a theatre for two hours without having a problem.
“I was on a bus in Cardiff one day and I could not manage. I felt terrible. It is the most awful and horrible feeling.”
Simon, a retired engineer from Haverfordwest, wants to speak openly about the issues he faced as he wants other men to feel more comfortable about opening up and getting the treatment they need.
“Men don’t talk. It is the same in younger men, there are such high suicide rates in young men because they feel they can’t open up and ask for help. And in older men they won’t talk about incontinence and needing to use the toilet frequently, and when they eventually do, it is too late.”
According to research done by PHS Group and Prostate Cancer UK, more than half (55%) of men surveyed in Wales, of all ages, have experienced symptoms associated with urinary incontinence, with nearly nine in 10 men (88%) anxious to leave the house.
As a man gets older, his prostate may become enlarged. It is very common in men over the age of 50 but it can also affect younger men. As the prostate grows, it can press on the outside of the urethra, causing it to become narrow. This can cause incontinence problems.
However, the symptoms associated with an enlarged prostate can also be an indication of prostate cancer. Symptoms of prostate cancer include:
Difficulty starting to urinate or emptying your bladder; a weak flow when you urinate; a feeling that your bladder hasn’t emptied properly;
sribbling urine after you finish urinating;
needing to urinate more often than usual, especially at night; and
a sudden need to urinate – you may sometimes leak urine before you get to the toilet.
Simon was aware his symptoms could be an indication of prostate cancer and visited a GP – and he has urged other men to do the same.
He was diagnosed with an enlarged prostate and was prescribed tablets to help with the symptoms, although he eventually needed surgery.
“Men don’t like to talk about it. My age group, cancer is still a big taboo. It was always you heard someone had cancer and they went away and you didn’t know anything about it until they died. Men don’t like to talk about it because it is the last thing they want to face.”
Simon is opening up about his experience after the launch of sanitary bins in men’s toilets.
PHS Group has launched a campaign alongside Prostate Cancer UK called Dispose with Dignity to raise awareness of the need for sanitary bins in men’s toilets.
It hopes the bins will encourage men to feel more comfortable to use any products that they need by providing them with an appropriate space to dispose of them.
Simon added: “I think that by putting the bins there, they will start a conversation. Men will see them and think about their symptoms and then go to the doctors.”
Simon also urged people to visit Prostate Cancer UK’s risk checker at prostatecanceruk.org