4 Don’t be the only doer

It’s all too easy to take on too much, then silently seethe with resentment. have an honest conversation with your partner, discussing which household jobs you love or loathe and then divide them up. larger projects have three stages: planning, decision-making and execution. split these according to your talents.

Do It If you’re a mum handling “kidmin”, get the youngsters involved early on. to build on their capacity to remember, say things like, “What’s the first thing you do when you get home from school?” rather than going through their book bags to extract forms and rotting bananas. and give reluctant teens specific, achievable tasks like “please strip your bed sheets and put them in the washing machine.”