WHAT’S BETTER?

Social contact comes in diverse forms in the modern world. But what dates in your diary are going to lift your mood the most?

Digital vs face-to-face

Digital communication is here to stay, and it’s indispensable, especially for those who have friends or family members abroad, or are physically or mentally unable to socialise in person. However, communicating online is often less satisfying, says Gemma. ‘Instant messages, texts and emails don’t contain any non-verbal cues, such as body language.’ This can lead to miscommunication and even needless arguments.

Indeed, ‘digital devices negatively impact our in-person social skills,’ says Professor Burianová, ‘leading to lower self-confidence and an inability to sustain eye contact and concentrate on a conversation without getting distracted.’

‘It’s important to realise that social intimacy is essential to social interaction and mental and physical health, and it only exists in real-life, in-person socialising,’ says Professor

Burianová. While digital socialising is definitely better than doing none at all, the happiest people are those who have most face-to-face contact, according to a recent study**.

Friends vs family

Whichever is more supportive, as this is the most important factor. Prioritise relationships that promote a sense of belonging and feelings of relaxation, calm and self-confidence.

As teenagers, ‘friendships give us a sense of self away from our family and the freedom to explore our identity in more depth,’ says Marisa. This may feel less important as we age, but the value of making new friends remains the same.

Large groups vs small groups

There is a time and a place for both. ‘Socialising with smaller groups of close friends can lead to deeper, more meaningful interactions,’ says Marisa. ‘In terms of feeling connected with others, it’s all about quality over quantity,’ agrees Gemma.