Put your phone away

Woman & Home - - Life Tools -

there are sound rea­sons for hid­ing our phones when we need to con­cen­trate. most peo­ple know how tempt­ing it is to avoid the task in hand by check­ing a twit­ter feed or read­ing a text. more se­ri­ously, re­search shows that when we go back to our task again, we’re more likely to make a mis­take. a scary thought when you think how easy it is to scan a text while driv­ing. If it’s im­por­tant to check your emails, set aside two or three pe­ri­ods a day to do so, rather than re­spond­ing the mo­ment they land in your in­box.

Phones can also have a neg­a­tive im­pact on the qual­ity of our con­ver­sa­tion and re­la­tion­ships. “you’ve only got to look around the av­er­age restau­rant and see all the peo­ple glanc­ing at their phones, in­stead of giv­ing their full at­ten­tion to the peo­ple they are with,” says Crabbe. there’s even a name for it: “phub­bing” or snub­bing some­one with your phone. although it might seem harm­less, a re­cent study found that it makes con­ver­sa­tion less sat­is­fy­ing, leaves peo­ple feel­ing ex­cluded and af­fects their self-es­teem.

to avoid phub­bing, cre­ate a fam­ily rou­tine with win­dows of phone-free time. If a blan­ket phone black­out would be the prelude to World War three in your house, opt for a softer pol­icy of no phones at the ta­ble and/or no phones af­ter a cer­tain hour, say 8 or 9pm, or be­fore school.

✢ Do IT! Keep your phone out of sight in your bag when you meet friends. and if you’re on the re­ceiv­ing end of phub­bing, try say­ing: “am

I not enough for you?” They’ll soon get the mes­sage. w&h

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