I’m going to MISS my children this christmas
QLast Christmas was the first since we separated. It was a nightmare because over the entire period we were at my parents, the kids were on the phone or Skyping their dad. We could hardly do anything without interruptions. So this year they’re going to be with my ex, his new girlfriend and his parents the weekend before and Christmas itself. I’m beginning to realise how he felt and how my children will feel too, being away from me. It’s been an amicable separation mostly and we’ve not made it hard for him to see our kids. I don’t want to be a clingy mum, but I’ll miss them and I know they’ll miss me.
Suzie says
AFirst events after a loss, be they Christmas, holidays or birthdays, whether from separation or a family death, are always the hardest. Everyone either clings hard to what they feel is slipping away, or longs fiercely for it to be disposed of. You wanted them to let go and look forward, they couldn’t help wanting to bring their father back. You’re doing the best thing, helping them share times such as Christmas together. So this year, acknowledge the feelings and discuss with everyone concerned a way of making it easier. You could schedule contact times, or agree times to put away devices (at mealtimes, for instance). Or, you could all recognise this is your children’s way of making sure their parents are there for them, no matter where or when.