he never wants to make love to me

QWe’ve been together four years but for the past year my man has only wanted to make love three times. I’ve made advances, but I either get laughed at, shouted at or ignored. I don’t think he has any problems, medical or otherwise, because, to be frank, he was never terribly sexual. I could accept ‘twice a month’ but ‘twice a year’ is making me feel terrible.

Suzie says

ASometimes sex is all about the urge, but more often it’s linked to emotions – how you feel about yourself and about your partner. People may be put off sex because they are depressed, lacking in self-worth or stressed. Talk to your doctor, then ask for a joint appointment. If he refuses to go, you have a choice – live with it or choose to live without him.