re­la­tion­ship, fam­ily, med­i­cal and money prob­lems solved

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QMy mother-in-law lives the other end of the coun­try from us and we’ve al­ways seen her dur­ing the school hol­i­days and at Christ­mas. Her birth­day is early De­cem­ber and this year she’ll be 70. She’s or­gan­is­ing a party, all the fam­ily will be there. But I re­ally don’t want to make that aw­ful drive twice in a month. My hus­band seems to think it’s a done deal, but I’ve sug­gested that maybe we can go up a day or so early for Christ­mas, take her out and treat her, hav­ing sent a card for the day it­self. Is that so un­rea­son­able?

Suzie says

AIt’s not un­rea­son­able to want to avoid driv­ing all that way twice in a month, let alone in win­ter and at one of the busiest times on the road. But wouldn’t it be bet­ter to have a dis­cus­sion about pri­or­i­ties and choice? Why not ask your mother-in-law which she’d pre­fer, if it has to be a choice – to see you and her grand­chil­dren at Christ­mas or on this spe­cial birth­day, with all her fam­ily around her? How do the kids feel about such a trek? What about ad­vance train tick­ets? Or maybe this is the year to have Christ­mas at home, hav­ing driven all that dis­tance ear­lier.

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