Suzie says

ANo, you’re not. It would be different if your mismatch was because you had opposite shifts. Loving couples who have to manage such routines either go to great lengths to align some periods in their days, or look for ways of changing their jobs. But your husband has no reason but choice behind his behaviour. It would take time and effort to change his sleep cycle, but he could do it, if he cared. I suggest another talk but this time with a counsellor from relate.org.uk to help.