PUT OFF SEX BY MY PUSHY PARTNER…

QWhen we met, my new partner and I enjoyed foreplay. But intercourse hurt me a lot because I hadn’t had sex for a while. And I was shocked that he kept going, telling me that ‘just one push’ would do the trick. We did manage intercourse, but I hated it and have said no ever since. What can we do?

Susan says

APainful intercourse has many straightforward solutions – more lubrication, more time, more stretching of your vaginal opening. Your partner’s behaviour is much more worrying, and I suspect you’re now saying no not just to intercourse but to the whole relationship. You need to start again, explain your needs, ask your partner to act differently. Try the solutions I’ve suggested, but if you’re still unhappy, there may be no way back.