He is rejecting me in the bedroom

Q It’s been several years since my husband has been willing to have sex with me. Our relationship is very unhappy, but even so, I would love to have physical contact with him and doing it for myself isn’t the same. The worst thing is that he pleasures himself regularly, but refuses point blank to even touch me. He also refuses to go to counselling. Are there any tricks I could try to make him feel sexual?

Susan says

A Sex tricks won’t solve your problem. Because from what you say, your husband does feel sexual, just not sexual with you – and that does need sorting out through counselling. My advice is to see a counsellor yourself – to help you cope with your husband’s rejection and to decide whether there’s any way back from what’s clearly a toxic marriage.