He’s leaving me sexually unfulfilled

QMy partner is being really awkward right now when it comes to our sex life. When we met I was thrilled that he could make love all night, but recently he’s found it more and more difficult to last very long, so I’m left unfulfilled. He says he’s tried to hold back but just can’t – then I get angry and we end up rowing again and again. How can I convince him that if he doesn’t sort this out soon, I’ll be out the door?

ASUSAN SAYS

Your partner’s issue of not being able to last during sex is almost certainly not down to him being ‘awkward’. He may have a physical problem. He may be feeling stressed. And the way you’re handling this won’t be helping. So instead of blaming, talk things through calmly. Most importantly, support him to get a medical check-up in case there’s something wrong. In short, don’t pressure your man to perform, or he’ll be the one walking away!

I’d like to go back to the occasional glass of wine. He’s asked me to stay off to support him and called me selfish and unsupportive when I said no.

ASUZIE SAYS

I’m all in favour of saying everyone is responsible for themselves and he shouldn’t make it your responsibility for him to stay sober. But I’d also say that when you are in a loving relationship, you sometimes need to make compromises to help each other. Which gives you more pleasure – a glass of wine or a sober and happy husband? Consider your priorities. Me? I’d go teetotal.