I want to know about my partner’s sexual past

QMy new partner and I are three months into our relationship and very happy indeed. But we’ve never swapped notes about our sexual past, and I’m starting to wonder why that is. I don’t want all the gory details about his previous relationships, but I would be interested to know the headlines. And I’d like him to know about my past. How can I get him talking and how can I start talking in return?

ASUSAN SAYS One can feel embarrassed – even guilty – about one’s sexual history. So perhaps that’s why you and your new man aren’t swapping notes – you’re wary of being judged. If so, you need to set the scene for a non-judgmental conversation. Admit your wariness, then open up. If you’re relaxed, confident and positive about your own past, your man will be about his and you’ll find it much easier to be honest with each other.