‘IT’S EMPOWERING USING SEXUALITY TO GET HIM TO DO HIS FAIR SHARE OF THE WORK’

Dance teacher Jane-charlotte Brooker, 31, lives in Westgate-on-sea, Kent, with her care worker partner George Cio-banu, 37, and her five-year-old son from a previous relationship.

Lying in bed last December, I felt George’s arms reach around me. But I just couldn’t get in the mood – and I knew the reason why.

There were dirty dishes in the sink, the bins needed taking out and the living room had to be vacuumed. The list of errands ran through my mind, stressing me out. So I rolled over in a huff and we didn’t make love that night.

The next morning, he got up and cleaned. Within a few hours, the house was spotless. That’s how our ‘sex for chores’ game started.

We met in June last year and moved in together five months later. Since then, we have got to know better how each other lives – and crucially, who’s messy and who isn’t. But now, thanks to our choreplay arrangement, we rub along together easily. I’ll tell George, ‘A new bin bag needs putting in and I’ve bought massage oil….’

Some might think it’s transactional and unfeminist that I have to bribe him to get him to do his fair share of the housework, but I don’t see it like that.

In my opinion, it’s the ultimate act of feminist empowerment, using my sexuality to get what I want. I want to make love, but I want work done around the house, too, so choreplay puts me in the driving seat and reminds my man that we share menial household tasks.

This way, the jobs I dread the most are done, and we also get to spend some adult time together. It’s a win-win! I feel better having sex because I’m more relaxed and able to focus on him, and we both get a nicer home.

‘Choreplay puts me in the driving seat’