Breathe in bed? I want to get to it!

Q I’m head over heels about my new lover. He’s very experienced and every sex session brings me even more orgasms, but I’m starting to worry that he doesn’t fancy me as much as I fancy him. Rather than jumping me immediately we reach the bedroom, he wants us to spend time simply breathing together – sometimes for half an hour. So is he trying to cut sex short? Has he gone off me already?

SUSAN SAYS

A I don’t think for a moment that your lover is trying to cut sex short or that he’s gone off you. I think that – given he’s so experienced – he knows that a key secret of great lovemaking is being in sync with each other. That’s why he’s suggesting you breathe together, so you harmonise, blend, read each other’s signals, learn to move together as one. So don’t worry. Relax. Go with what’s happening. And enjoy!