My husband is in love with another woman
I’ve recently discovered my husband of 25 years is in love with a friend of ours. He’s not told her how he feels and she’s never encouraged him, but he says he can’t stop thinking about her and often fantasises about her. This has left me crushed and I don’t know what to do. Name and address withheld
What you need to do is see this for what it is – a fantasy and a crush. He’s not in love with this woman because she doesn’t reciprocate his feelings or even know about them. I’m wondering why he told you about this when he doesn’t want to hurt you. A relationship counsellor could help you to unravel what’s really going on here, both you for and him. Visit relate.org.uk.