‘They stayed together longer than they should have’
Lizzy Howell, 27, is an accountant from Wandsworth, south-west London. I was 12 when it happened and my younger brother was nine. At the time, it was a relief. I think they stayed together longer than they should have for us – they thought it was better than splitting up. But the truth is the opposite. There were a difficult few years leading up to the divorce, so when it happened, my parents were able to move on and live separate, far happier lives apart.
I don’t see my dad any more. I haven’t seen him for years. But I’ve moved on with my life and so has he and I’m OK with that.
My parents’ divorce does make me think twice about getting married. I’m not in any hurry to settle down because I saw how miserable both my parents were. My past boyfriends have all been lovely people because I look for kind, responsible men and tend to steer away from ‘Jack the lad’ types like my dad.
The best thing is that my brother and I are super-close, as we’ve always been there for each other. I know he’ll walk me down the aisle if I ever change my mind.
It was hard growing up in a negative atmosphere but now I feel the divorce is the best thing that happened to our family. My mum, brother and I are so close because of it.