Can my daughter handle the gossip?
Q My 14-year-old daughter recently told me that her best friend at school has turned against her and is spreading gossip about her on Whatsapp groups and at school. I feel very protective of my girl, especially as she’s really struggled since being at secondary school, but she wants to handle it alone. I don’t know what to do. Should I contact the school or this girl’s mum, or just step back? S Tyler, 46, by email
A It can be really hard to let go and let your children fight their own battles. However, at 14 years, your daughter is telling you that she can handle it and, more importantly, wants to handle it. If you go behind her back, not only will she be angry, but she’ll also feel like you don’t think she’s capable. Girls’ friendships are rife with these issues, and stepping in isn’t always helpful. Let her deal with it, but check in with her to see that she’s coping and doesn’t need extra support from you.
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