Our sex life has gone a bit flat

Q I’ve recently met someone new and while the first few times were really good, our sex life has since gone a bit flat. I keep thinking what I could perhaps do more of, but nothing is working. I haven’t had a good sexual relationship for a while, so I’m not sure what’s going to help. Lisa, 45 A Good sex isn’t just about how good your sexual repertoire is. It’s about feeling connected to someone and understanding each other’s sexual needs. Rather than focus on what you need to do more of, talk to each other. Find out what you both like during sex and what makes you feel emotionally attached to each other, as that’s what makes sex good.