I’m not ready to move on

Woman's Own - - GOOD ADVICE -

Q A year ago, I lost my 68-year old hus­band to can­cer. We’d been to­gether for nearly 50 years and it’s been a very tough time. Through it all, my two daugh­ters have been won­der­ful but now as we start 2019 they are say­ing it’s time for me to move on and look ahead at my life. I feel I can’t yet. It’s not wal­low­ing but just a feel­ing that I can’t yet put it all be­hind me. Linda, 67, Es­sex A The New Year doesn’t have to be a time for new starts, new be­gin­nings and more. It’s just a date and while the whole world is go­ing res­o­lu­tion crazy, you do not have to be a part of it. Right now, you’re griev­ing for your hus­band and while you’re en­gulfed in that you shouldn’t feel you have to shrug off your feel­ings and look for­ward to the fu­ture. Tell your well-mean­ing chil­dren that you un­der­stand why they want you to move on, but you are not ready yet. This doesn’t mean you are wal­low­ing in self-pity, but sim­ply al­low­ing your­self to mourn for the per­son you loved.

Mourn a loved one in your own time

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