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‘We’re obsessed with promoting perfection’
Abbey Robb, 41, an integrative therapist working in privatepractice mental health, is single and lives in London.
We live in a world obsessed with social media and, sadly, this trend of keeping up appearances seems to spill over into our sex lives, too.
Women talk about sex a lot, but often it seems this sharing of experience doesn’t come from a place of creating bonds other, but or supporting each from a place of trying to make ourselves seem enviable.
I had a boyfriend who I had sexual problems with. We stayed friends and his new girlfriend would rave about their sex life. I thought there was something wrong with me. It took a long time to get over, but, years later, he told me he was asexual and his (by then) ex-girlfriend must have been lying. It made me realise that if I’d talked about my feelings – with him or my friends – I might not have felt so bad.
I’ve since trained as a therapist, and now I always think it’s better to open up. to That’s not to say you need go into details if you don’t want to. Simply saying you’re having problems and don’t want to talk about sex right now can let friends know it’s time to stop boasting.
It takes years for women to understand their own bodies If and figure out what they want. people – your partner included – aren’t given the information, sex won’t be fulfilling. By opening up about what isn’t working, you’re paving the way to more satisfying sex.
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