Sex leaves me cold

Q

I have a new partner, but I don’t enjoy sex with him at all. He’s pretty fast and energetic, and it’s not working for me. I keep hoping he’ll notice and change what he’s doing, but so far he hasn’t. We are both in our 40s and quite shy people. What do I do? A Quietly hoping without action isn’t going to help here. The only way to improve your sex life is to talk openly about it. You need to gently explain how you feel and what works and what doesn’t during sex. Remember, he can’t change what he does if he doesn’t know you don’t like it.