‘I’m not afraid to voice my desires’
Podcaster Suzanne Noble, 61, lives in London. She is in an open relationship with Peter, 62.
I’m having the best sex of my life in my 60s. When I was in my 20s, I had what I considered a high libido. But looking back, I didn’t have the experience or confidence to articulate, or even know, exactly what I wanted. That’s one of the most liberating things about sex in your 60s – I’m not afraid to voice my desires. I lost my virginity at 17 and had an active, experimental sex life for the next decade. But back then, I assumed sex was all about having an orgasm and there was little focus on foreplay. I was self conscious of my body and most of the sex I had was forgettable. And while I might have been having a lot of sex, although I didn’t know it then, later it would get so much better. At 29, I got married and had two children. Although I’d always felt a strong attraction to my husband, the physical side of things dwindled. We parted ways after 12 years of marriage and, post-divorce, I lost my confidence.
In my 40s, I had casual sex but was never emotionally connected. I did online dating, went on naturist holidays and really began to explore and enjoy sex. I finally started to feel comfortable with my body.
But when my 50th birthday approached in 2011, I felt lonely and wondered if I’d ever find someone for more than just a sexual relationship. Then I met a man online who, aged