Our daughter has left our lives

I am sorry, as this must be a very painful situation for you. Your daughter has decided for the time being that she doesn’t want to be in touch and it appears that, however hard you try, she isn’t going to respond. So your strategy isn’t working. Your other children want you to stop trying as it’s only hurting you and this makes them sad. That said, they might have a good point. If you stop ‘holding on’ to your daughter, she may feel able to get back in contact one day. Even when we’re not physically in contact with people, it appears that they can feel the connection. If you let her go and allow her to do whatever she needs at the moment, things may well change. I offer no guarantee, of course, but doing something different raises the possibility of a new outcome. It also gives you a chance to focus on what you’ve already got, which is your other children whose company and lives you can enjoy.