I’m hurt by his decision

Q My third husband doesn’t want to go to my daughter’s wedding. He says that he isn’t close to her and he doesn’t like a lot of my family so he’d rather not attend. He also says it’s his choice to go where he wants. I’m very hurt and cross. This is my daughter and he is my husband.

I’m not asking him to move in with her! He says her father will be there and that is enough. Liz, London A I understand that he may not know her well, as he probably came into your life when she was an adult. However, I don’t think this is the issue here. Relationships are about give and take and supporting your partner when they need it, particularly when it is a reasonable request. And this one certainly is. Explain to him why you want him there. Check with him if there are any other reasons: has he been asked to sit on a different table from you or is there animosity with any relations? If there are, you’ll need to find a resolution. I’m sure if you’re open and honest, you will find a solution that suits you both.

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