Is it wrong to take the money?

QI’ve been left some money by my ex-mother-in-law. I stayed close to her over the years and she valued our relationship. It’s a fair amount of money. My ex is fine about it, as I was like a daughter to her. But my present husband doesn’t want me to take it, as it’s connected to my old life. I am now wondering if I should do as he says.

Marissa, London

AOf course you should take it! You had a relationship with your ex-mother-in-law for a number of years and you had a good connection with her. This has nothing to do with your ex. It was a lovely gesture from a woman who appreciated you. If there were criteria attached, it would be different, but it doesn’t sound as if there are. If your husband doesn’t want to be part of the

money, buy yourself something fabulous, like a car, that you would never have been able to afford otherwise – and enjoy!