I’m anxious in crowds
Q I really struggle with large groups of people; they make me very anxious. My new partner has a large extended family and they get together a few times throughout the year. I went along once and felt ill, and we had to leave early. Every time we get an invitation, he pleads with me to come. I’m not doing this to be difficult. I did recently go to my daughter’s wedding, which I found hard, but I stuck it out. He says I could do that for him.
Bryony, Preston
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If you’re a person who likes a crowd and manages it easily, it can be hard to accept that, for some, this is really difficult. Many extroverts thrive on these kinds of occasions, while introverts don’t. I know you’re not avoiding it because you don’t care about him enough, but that is what he’s feeling. I think you could benefit from a couples’ counselling session, where you can both explain your thoughts and feelings in a neutral place and come to an understanding. Relate (relate.org.uk) is a good place to start.