WITH SOMEONE YOU’RE KEEN TO BECOME CLOSER WITH

METHOD: THE 15% RULE

‘You’ll get closer to someone when you can be more fully yourself,’ says Dunbar. Which means lowering your barriers via self-disclosure. This doesn’t (have to) mean spilling your entire sexual history over five G&TS. Instead, go 15% outside your comfort zone. Perhaps sharing an argument you had with someone (and how you felt), or asking their advice on a tricky situation. ‘Sharing facts starts to build a larger picture of who we are, but sharing feelings tends to have more impact,’ he adds.