The Scottish Mail on Sunday - You
TELL TRINNY
My husband died suddenly two years ago but I still love him with all my heart. Since then I’ve lost weight and I’m now a size 10 (I used to be a size 14 to 16). I need an outfit for a christening but I’m 56, 5ft 3in and not confident about what to wear as I’m usually a jeans, trainers and T-shirt person. Help! Christine, Lancashire
Your longer letter is so descriptive, it seems like yesterday that you lost your husband. There’s a part of us that wants to stand still after a loved one dies, but clearly your body has changed. While many women might be happy to lose weight, I can appreciate that the woman you were with your husband isn’t who you are today.
Perhaps the christening is a good opportunity for you to make peace with your new figure, and even embrace it. You’re going to church, so look for a dress in a block colour that falls just to the knee. Avoid anything strappy and opt for something that covers the shoulders and upper arms, such as Coast’s Lexi wrap dress or luxury workwear brand The Fold’s Camelot dress. Both of these feature flattering details that will discreetly show off your shape. Team them with Sole Bliss’s snakeprint slingbacks, which are built for comfort – essential if you’re not used to wearing heels.
I also wonder whether now is the time for you to go on an adventure to the hairdresser and zhoosh up your style. You could consider having some warm lowlights to give it a subtle lift. If the idea of going shopping is too daunting, a new hairdo and the simplest outfit may be the new look you want.